Monday 5 December 2022

Untamed......2


 I wrote about the book 'Untamed' from Glennon Doyle.

It talks mostly about the 'fear zone'.

The zone we start to live in when we,

as a child become aware of our surroundings.


She talks about parents

and how parenting has changed over the years.

She talks about 'memo's' parents got

when they took their child home from the hospital.

These 'memo's changed in the years.....

'Now it looks like  the goal of parents is

to never allow anything difficult to happen to their child. 

By this we steal from our children the one thing

that will allow them to become strong people:

struggle.'


How come parents believe this?!?

Could it be that in the new energy we live in,

we HAVE TO deal with our old emotions.

In the past we could hide from them,

but not now anymore....

The only way we can help our kids,

is to deal with our OWN demons.

Decide to stop the family/society karma with us....

By not allowing them 'to struggle'

we prevent them to grow....


Can we as an adult move from the learning zone,

to the growing zone AND

accept and realize 

that we move back in the fear zone

once in a while....?

Can we be as compassionate with ourselves

as with our children?


Her new memo for parents:

'Here is your baby.

Love her at home, at the polls, in the streets.

Let everything happen to her.

Be near.'


Be near.......

You  only can be near if you 'near' to yourself.

Do you set boundaries?

How do you deal with social media/mobile phone?

Can you set boundaries with your children?

Not as a punishment, 

but to make sure

they get time to be creative,

to think for themselves,

to develop their talents,

use their imagination.


How come that the same people who developed

social media/internet,

 don't let children use a mobile.....

What do they know what we don't want to see.....



Could it be that 

by staying in the comfort/fear zone,

by not dealing with our emotions

by being addicted to social media/internet ourselves

we show that

-instead of being a parent-

we want to get the love from our children we missed ourselves? 


Could it be that deep inside of us

we still look for someone/something

that will 'save us',

will take care of us,

will make us happy......

Could it be that there is

still a part in us

that doesn't trust,

doesn't believe in the power we all have inside....

Could it be that by denying this part,

we keep in the state of control....?



Could it be that we, as society, 

are in 'a womb'.....

ready to be born,

born into a 'new' society,

and we are feeling the fear,

'inner child wounds'....

Deep down we Know,

that after a pregnancy

there will always be a birth.....


Perhaps we forgot 

we all have the power inside of us 

to deal with our challenges,

and....we don't have to do it alone:

we are doing it together.

Let's remember 

that Love and determination 

is in all of us.....

Let's remember this

and...

take one step at a time.....


December, the end of the year.

A good time to look back

and be grateful how far you came.

Body, Mind, Relationship, Society, Finance:

what was your 'weakest link'?

What is the first step you can do

to move to were you want to go?


Let's remember that we are all Love,

Let's decide to move from fear to Love...

one day at a time.

What are you going to do for yourself today?




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