Are you a prisoner ?!? Part 2

How do you speak to yourself?

Do you realise how you do?

How come we have a tendency to judge?

What do you choose 

to see and hear on social media?

Are you in charge or...your mobile phone.....

In the book Dose, you realise straight away

the connection with the 'phone based generation'

We want instant gratification:

the good feeling NOW......

This doesn't help with building dopamine...

Dopamine is built through effort,

it is not something you are born with,

not 'a talent'....

For me it has to do with Saturn.

Saturn, the planet of 

patience, determination,

commitment, responsibility, 

discipline, perseverance

and also limitation and restrictions.

It also has to do with parenthood:

being there for your children to help

them to live and survive/thrive in this world.

Saturn 'tests' you every 7 years:

so, 

after 7 years you get new teeth,

you get more responsibility's

and go to school to learn 'life'

-reading, writing, dealing with friendships etc.-

Around 14 you go to middle school:

often farter away from home.

You have to deal with more people,

new people, homework

and puberty.....

There will be challenges, hurts,

all to make you strong.

-remember the tree from the last blog-

Parents are there to be loving

and......to be patient,

Knowing 

that challenges are helping making them strong.

Perhaps painful to see AND mirroring

the parents old wounds: are they dealing with them

or do parent choose -subconsciously-

to avoid this by 'taking the wind away'

not realising that this prevents them 

to be strong in the future......

Around 21 you find the job you like to do,

or are studying for the job you like to do.

Now is the time to be responsible for yourself.

The next 7 years you get the time

AND

at around 28 the cycle starts again.

How did you do these first 28 years?

Do you need some more patient, responsibility,

determination or.....do you need to let go of

guild and shame you build because

you felt you had to prove something,

you had to live the life your parents wanted you to have.....

The phone based childhood 'forgot' to build dopamine

and come in a flow state.

Some did, by doing sports or reading,

only.....

the phone apps were build to 'addict you'....

You didn't have time to get in a flow state.....

As an adult you 'had' to go to your work,

do the dishes, take care of the children,

only....

the children didn't build up that dopamine.

They need the time to get in this flow state.

They need parents who help them

only......

How many parents are dealing subconsciously

with their own unhealed emotions? 

Overprotecting and......

 -not knowing this 'world of Mars'-

 didn't help.....

You can built this up.......

start with 15 minutes.......

and....

if it is only 3 at the beginning, accept it....

next day can be 5 or 8.

Take you time, let go of the judgement...

be disciplined.

Where in your life do you need to take the first step?

It could be: 

-'instead of the elevator I take the steps'

-'every morning I make my bed'

-'no phones in the bedroom, I get you an alarm clock'

-'I clean the dishes first and then I...'

-'We clean your clothes draw together and then

 we read a book'.

- 'I love how you love to have a clean room'

  after you helped clean the room.

-'You know, you fell down often before you could right the bike,

  and you still went on because you wanted to right the bike. 

 This is just like that: not so nice now but you will be happy later'

-'Can you help me with this?'

-'I know you didn't mean to, but you hurt me,

  can I get a hug?'

We are at the end of the cycle of Saturn.

Who were you the last 28 years?

Were you to strict, of do you need more discipline.

Did you build Dopamine and.....

do you need more

to have the life you love to have....

Neptune is also at the end of a cycle,

a 165 year cycle...

Could you let go of old paradigms?

Do you still believe all you thought 

or did you realise that

some of those believes were not true?

Can you let them go?

Are you open for new, better ones?

Do you still need to control

or can you trust more and more....

The world is mirroring this energy as well 

Did we learn from the past,

or didn't we heal enough and

do we need to repeat......

Next time more.

 

Are you a prisoner?!? Part 1

 At the moment I am reading two books,

one about 'the anxious generation' one about 'Dose'

Both books relate to each other AND show 

also how we dealt with the Pluto in Capricorn energy

from 2008 till 2024.

The consequences of this period

AND 

what we 'need' to transform the coming years..

-while Pluto moves trough Aquarius-

Transform, so we can be unique, authentic 

AND be part of the group/society.

Respect, compassion for each other 

and for ourselves.

Rules and regulations that are needed

to keep everyone healthy and safe.

Time to accept, heal and let go.

While reading this book I realised even more

how the smart phone and social media changed our lives

and especially for the young people.

They went from a play-based child hood,

to a phone-based child hood.

Instead of discovering the world,

learning by risky play,

a lot of parents wanted to make sure

that their kids would be protected, safe.

They knew how 'the world' was,

saw the dangers AND wanted to make sure

'bad things' wouldn't happen to them.

From which energy was this parenting?

Was it from an healed or a wounded energy.....

From fear or....from love.

A lot of organisations/institutions/family's 

had skeletons in their closets and.......

they had to face the consequences.

It looked like the world was becoming a lot saver.

It was, 

only there was a 'new world coming:

in 2007 there was the mobile phone and

in 2008 there were the apps.....

A new world was starting,

we made sure the world we knew

-the old world- became safer

AND

we had to invite this new world:

'the world of Mars'....

A world we didn't know,

a world we assumed 

to be safer than the world we were living in....

Was it/is it safer?!?

In 1980 people tried to build a self sustained eco system in outer space.

It was designed to support 8 people for several years.

It didn't work: 

healthy trees fell over,

they grew to quickly and.....

didn't build up  a healthy root system

and wood that was strong.

They realised trees needed wind to become strong,

they alter cell structure...

Children are the same: they are 'antifragile',

they need challenges to grow....

Physically and mentally..  

While the outside world became safer

a whole generation grew up 

with this new world, 'the mars world'.

Instead of playing, children stayed inside.

They moved in this new world AND

adults and children had no idea how it worked in this world.

How safe is it?

As a teenager in this book said: 

'I al of a sudden was on a porn side when I was 10.

My mom was in the next room cooking a healthy meal

with different coloured fruit and vegetables'

Could it be that this is why we have an epidemic of Mental illness?

Don't we know anymore how to relate to each other?

When mobile phones were banned in schools a few years ago,

a lot of children didn't like it at all,

now they are happier: 'we talk to each other and that is fun!'.

'No social media till 16'

For lot's of country's this is the next step,

the next 'rule'......

Sometimes it looks like people thing that

'rules are bad'......

For me: rules make sure you get freedom,

freedom for everyone

and it keeps everyone safe.

-I mentioned this before: 

just imagine going in the car

to a place you want to go and 

there wouldn't be traffic lights

or signs......

would you arrive safe and sound 

to the place you want to go?!?-

The internet/social media, this world of Mars.....

It brings us a lot AND we need rules and regulations

to make sure we are free to be ourselves.....

Then about this other book: 'Dose'

D for dopamine.

What do you REALY want and......are you motivated enough

to go for it.....

OR.....

did you forget you had the 'courage muscle'

because you didn't need it.....

How big is your motivation.....

When reading I realised that when I got cancer,

I developed a long time motivation,

a determination to go through whatever was needed

to live my life.

I also realised that playing the guitar,

was something I liked,

but not enough....

I also realised I didn't want it for myself,

I wanted it as an extra for the grandkids......

D......dopamine.......

Do you have a goal?

As a teenager do you want to do what is needed?

As a young adult did you learn that 'wind and storm'

is needed to make you strong?

Do you realise that programmers want you

to be 'addicted'....that is how they earn money?

Can you set boundaries and choose what YOU want to see

AND take time to live YOUR life?

'There are no lies, only hidden truths behind the surface'

 This pictures shows for me the energy we are all in at the moment: foggy....

The last week was very foggy in Holland.

Israel/Hamas ceasefire.......and just before a lot of bombing....

Inauguration of Donald Trump: what will happen next....?!?

No factchecking anymore with social media......

The Moon Nodes changed from Aries/libra to Pisces/Virgo.

The North Node is at the moment

connected with Saturn and Neptune:

we will be in a 'foggy' energy the coming months.....

Can we see what is real and what is not?!?

Do we react or do we respond?

If we react, we do that from an unhealed aspect of ourselves,

if we respond, we do it from a place of clarity and self-awareness....

I heard a great quote:

'There are no lies,

only hidden trues behind the surface'...

Let it sink in......

I agree with this....

I really believe that people who are 'lying'

are doing this to protect a wounded child inside of them....

Why should someone lie if he/she Knew deep down

that we are all One, connected 

and.....everyone is good the way he/she is?

They wouldn't!....no one would.....

A hidden truth can be:

-I have to prove myself to be accepted

-if I don't do what people expect me to do than they don't love me

-only if you work hard you will succeed

-you have to do it before a curtain age or else if will not happen anymore

-there is 'lower' and 'higher' education and lower is less....

-people from other country's are scary, 

-if we help people then there is not enough for our selves....

What hidden truths are inside of you?

Were is the fog in you AND.....

are you open to see it clear:

do you allow to let 'the Sun come out'?

Healing the wound,

is healing separation.

In a talk show someone was talking about Israel and Palestine:

'I was at both places and both people are so nice and welcoming:

how can I be for one and against the other: it is not possible!'

....more and more I think my dad was right when he said:

'All those wars are being fought by people: why don't those leaders

go inside a boxing ring and fight it out by themselves?!?'

Could it be that we -as society-

are still looking at power outside of us

instead of the power that is inside of us.....

So we accept unhealed leaders 

'because' we are still afraid to heal 

to take on our own leadership....

Where do we/I criticize ourselves

instead of loving and trusting....

Do we/I take in what is good for us

and set boundaries when needed or....

do we still believe that we have to BE

what others expect us to be......

 The last time the Nodes were in Pisces/ Virgo 

was from June 2006 till Jan. 2008

What happened in your life?

Did you have to let go?

Did you set boundaries?

Could you still feel compassion

or did you 'shut down'......

Shutting down and setting boundaries

are two different feelings.

You set boundaries from inner power:

you Know if a same situations happens again,

you will stop it, you will protect yourself.

When you 'shut down' you don't communicate anymore,

the wound is not healed and deep down you are afraid

they can hurt you again......

Realise that if you 'shut down' 

nothing can come in....

a part of you becomes 'hard'.....

The Node connected with Neptune and Saturn

will help us to become soft AND determent.

It helps us to remember AND forgive.

It helps us to move forward AND be alert.....

It helps us to see what is important AND what is not

so we can choose to let it go.

The coming 1 1/2 year these Nodes will 'help' us....

Will we choose to stay in 'the fog' or do we allow

the Sun - our power- to clear the air....

Do we trust AND take responsibility,

let go of to much criticism and still address what is right and what is not.

Do we have compassion with ourselves and KNOW

that we all are mirrors of each other....

Everyone is doing the best they can,

till they know better......

Forgive yourself and others for not knowing

then what you know now and.....

choose to move on in a better way for all involved.

And....

if you see that people go on in an old way

while they know better: speak up!

The Little Soul and the Sun: A Children's Parable: Walsch, Neale Donald, Riccio, Frank: 9781571740878: Amazon.com: Books

2025 part 2

 We as humanity are in a process of healing.

Can we move this year from feeling a victim 

to remember our courage and determination in the coming year...?

The world is in transition, so.....we ALL are in transition.....

Can we shed our skin like a snake does, to grow?

Can we transform from a caterpillar to a butterfly?

I talked a lot about emotions the last years:

they are so helpful....

challenging AND helpful.......

In Holland there is a program about young people 

with cancer that has spread 

and they know they will not live long anymore.

They follow them 2 years and some live past the 2 years, 

some even longer because of new treatments and....

some don't.

One of them was Eva, only 24 years old when they started to follow her.

She died last month, just 26 years old.

With all the challenges she had, she choose to focus on the positive,

'Live life NOW'.

She didn't want to go AND...

didn't want to waist time: 'Life is to beautiful'

She had to deal with 'the war -cancer-  inside of her'.

A war she couldn't win AND

she choose happiness and new challenges

and also.....being grateful what is.....

For a lot of people she became a role model:

'Be the change you want to see in this world'

If I look at the situation in the Middle East,

I feel there is still a lot of old pain.....

Pain from past generations,

karma that has not been dealt with....yet.

So much old anger, old pain,

that is transferred to this generation.

Will this generation choose to let this karma stop with them?!?

How is it in your country, your family?

Do you Know family secrets, family karma?

Can you be very emotional about some topics

and don't you know how to deal with it?

Could it be that it is also karma, family karma

and.....

do you choose to stop it with you?

Een valse start - 100 dagen in de jeugd- en gezinszorg | NPO Start

'A false start - 100 days in youth and family care'

A documentary about kids who can not stay at home for a while.

You see and feel how tough it is AND:

'I do this now for 30 years and....it is not the best system.

We are not their parents and.....

if they are in balance and go back to their family's 

it often doesn't work because the parents situation didn't change....'

They realise that children feel......

they react to the energy of the parents.....

How come we as adults don't take time to deal with it.....

Could it be that we are sooooo afraid,

sooooo afraid to 'harm' our parents

and prefer to harm ourselves....

How insecure are we as parents,

are YOU as a parent.

Can you accept that you did the best you could

AND now you can choose to forgive yourself 

for not knowing then what you know now......

If you think you dealt with it all,

make sure you look at your surroundings:

if there are challenges/emotions,

then you Know.......

Know that there are old unhealed wounds.

You can choose to feel like a victim

-most likely it will still work this year-

or choose to deal with it

-most likely we will have to, by next year.....-

If you made a life cycle plan this year,

look at it again: 

what do you have to do to make it happen?

Are you prepared to 'practice' what is needed?

In 2018 Uranus went into Taurus and 

touched parts in your Astrological charts.

-The end of the year Uranus will move to Gemini-

These points are now touched by Pluto.

Were in your live did sudden unexpected situations take place?

Situations to 'help' you to be free and unique?

Pluto will 'help' you to let go what you couldn't let go ....yet.....

It will do till 2043.....

Can you choose to be patient with yourself,

smile, love and have fun?

Eva choose to......

she Knew she would not live long,

only.....

we don't know either.....

Why not start now to live life to the fullest,

and KNOW deep down that we have the courage

that is needed to deal with all the challenges.

Challenges that help us heal,

challenges we have to go through by ourselves,

only we don't have to do it all alone....

We can ask help and accept help,

we are 'All One'

And remember: 

setting boundaries is needed if you choose to be free....

2025

 I wish you all a very happy, peaceful 2025.

A year of good health and the courage to deal with your challenges.

For me 2025 starting under a blanket on the couch....

I needed to slow down and....

apparently without this sigh,

I wouldn't.......

It started 2 days before the new years and now I can say

that I almost feel like 'the old me' again.

I took baths, I started reading again and....

what I 'needed' to do, I did in slow motion.

My mind is calmer, my body recovering,

and I am open for 'the new adventure called 2025'

Old patterns die hard......

I wish all of us a lot of empathy with ourselves.....

respect and compassion:

we all did the best we could AND.....now we can choose different

because we Know better.

We had great Christmas days with our kids and grand-kids,

there were surprises, there were 'first times' and

there were easy talks, talks about emotional issues

and fun talks.

So that looks just like a great time and still:

my body showed something different......

For me the last days were a gift.

I reconnected with ME......and...

I didn't even realise I was not connected......

Perhaps that is it:

you can go on with your 'daily routine' and forget

to check,

if that daily routine fits in your chosen life. 

I wish us all to take time to check:

'what did I do today that made me happy?'

'what did I do today that made me curious?'

'what did I do today that was new or....

could I change something that would make my life more happy?'

AND.....most important:

'Now it is time to relax and enjoy....

tomorrow there will be another day!'

You only can save one person.....YOU.....

So decide to treat you well this year.

Choose to be 'the change you want to see in this world'.

Be the magnet to attract what you would like to come to you.

Did you make a life cycle plan?

Did you check the ones from last years?

Are you being grateful and can you be patient:

some miracles need a bit longer to manifest.....

There is so much going on in the world

AND.....

also in all our personal lives.

Let's choose to deal with them first

before we point fingers....

Also remember

A good reminder for 2025.

Big hug to you all and lot's of love.