Transformation and renovation part 4

What a great book! 

How do we deal with the big changes in our world?

Do we realise what Artificial Intelligence is and does with us?

What do children need to learn in this age?

Do we need to learn facts or 

is this not necessary in this world anymore…..

Perhaps it is better to learn 

how to find out it the facts are real or fake....

For him, children need a lot of mental flexibility

and great reserves of emotional balance.

They have to repeatedly let go of some of what they know best

and feel at home with the unknown….

I agree.

A total different roll for a teacher:

teaching facts is totally different than teaching kids

to embrace the unknown and how to keep their mental balance….

Are teachers ready for this?

'I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free'

-Michelangelo-

How many children 

do have to get burn outs,

feeling left out, depressed 

till we change the system?

Society is not the same as it was 20 years ago

and still we want to keep lots of structures the same….

that is not possible….

Are we prepared to change?

Are we prepared to look at different angles?

Are we prepared to raise our consciousness...

If I look at social media 

I see old and new energy next to each other:

I see people against vaccination and people who are pro.....

Should it not be 

Pro choice?

Also people against abortion and pro....

Should it not be that we are

Pro life and pro choice?

And people against a religion, 

political party's, country's and pro....

Should it not be

Pro life, pro choice an pro respect?

His conclusion: 

transformation start with your self….

sit stil, 

feel what emotions do with You 

and

choose to responding instead of 

reacting to the outside world….

For me it means

we are prepared to be a student all our live

and be a teacher in the mean time....

Meditation is also for the writer

a way to experiencing the mind, Your mind.....

-as he mentions: 'people talk about the brain,

but your brain is not your mind'-

Let go of how you have to do meditate.....

make sure you know

what way is the best for YOU.

For me swimming and walking is meditation.

For others it is running, fishing,

listening to music.

There is not one way....

make sure you find YOUR way!

It helps you to realise 

that you play a lot of roles in your life

and that You are not these roles.

Am I a wife?

Am I a mother?

Am I a hypnotherapist?

Am I a Reiki Master?

Am I a Astrologer?

Am I a sister?

Am I a traveler?

Am I a cancer survivor?

Am I different?

Am I a therapist?

Am I a teacher?

Am I …….

NO, I am not all that, 

those are only roles I am playing….

I AM Berndien,

and.... 

it is a work in progress to find out who I really am ;-).

The more I know myself,

the better I can play the roles in my life

and contribute to society.

What has this to do with renovation?

A lot...…

if you realise you are You and not your role,

you transform.

My role

'I am a helper, I have to safe people'

was blocking me.....

I 'forgot' it was a role,

it is not who I am…..

While breaking out the old kitchen,

I could let go of that role.

Not conscious, but subconscious….

I know, because

I felt different after this :-)

I didn't know we 'had' to do that

and wasn't happy in the first place.

In the end it was the best thing that could happen..

I had cuts in my right hand 

from very old tiles….and bruises..

old parts in me were still 'hurting me'

At that time we were told

it was not necessary to get rid of them:

'just stick over it'....

you didn't see the old tiles,

but they were there….

Don't we do that with some old issues?

We don't like to deal with it because

'it is not important'....

and those  - then hidden- emotions will 'hurt' us later on..

It looks clean and...it is clean, however…..

what happens with the old appliances and the old cupboards?

After a call they came to pick up the appliances

-to be honest, I had to call again: they forgot….-

Sometimes we have to show a little effort: 

do we really want to let go?

I see it with people who start a new lifestyle,

are in a new relationship, 

a new job or in a new environment.

It looks good and they are ready to start something new,

however….

are they prepared to let go of all the old? 

It takes time and effort

because 'in the old' were good times as well.....

All the other parts of the kitchen are outside now, 

in pieces....

For almost a week it will be there…..

Probably we need that time to let go.....

In the meantime a big truck came to pour a new concrete flour.

To make sure it was smooth and solid 

they went on it with a special machine

'vlinderen' in Dutch......power floating in Englisch 

but I like the literal translating:

'butterflying'....

Transforming...

After this we had time....days to let it get strong....

A lot of moist came in the room the days after…

If you change, transform, you need to ground that new part,

you have to get used to it.

It needs to be strong and firm,

it takes time, 

to trust and feel safe.

Some old emotions will come up.

When it settles, you made a commitment,

let go of outdated emotions,

you feel strong and 

you can take the next step:

-You look at certain food and decide not to take it.

-You change your job and know you can deal with the challenges.

-You move to a new country and you know you have it in you to make it a succes.

-Instead of reacting to your ex, mother in law, spouse, child, you respond.

And....you know it takes time, 

you will be patient with yourself.

It is like parts of our old kitchen: they are still in front of our house....

some emotions are easier to let go than others….

At the same time we got a message: a delay of tiles….

Most likely we need some more time for the next step

Patience....

and be grateful for this time.

Time to let go,

time to enjoy life :-)

and do a little work in the garden 

I didn't clean the bricks the first time,

I thought it was not necessary.

Ants were happy: lot of nests, lots of ants

and other insects….

The bricks are clean, at another place

and I have lots of ant bites….

they didn't like me disturbing there nests…

Also time to be creative :-)

Transformation and renovation part 3

And then, 

the new extension is visible. 

On the outside you can already see how the outcome will be.

It looked even better then we expected!

It still needed a ceiling, but you could already imagine how that would be

If you are in this fase of transformation, 
you can imagine how the end result will be, 
you are determined,'
see some results and can imagine the rest.
It makes you feel happy and you feel you can already celebrate :-)

It is as with these storks: a happy family. 

Three young storks. 

Amazing to see and to hear them.

When we watch, 

we realized that it is not an easy job to be parents of 3 young storks!

They seemed pretty big already, 

however they were not ready to take care of them selves!

The parents flew on and of to feed them 

and had to walk many miles going over fields

to find enough food to fill the empty stomachs of there offspring.

Did they realise how much it would take

to do this?

How often do we start something new

because we think it will be amazing,

but 'forget' that it takes responsibility,

time, patience and determination?

Do parents know what it takes to raise a child

when they decide to have children?

Someone said to me one day:

'If I knew what it takes I would not have done it.'

My reaction: 

'You made that decision and now you can not go back,

you  have to take responsibility for that decision!'

With the renovation it looks like the 'hard part' is over.

When you are in this fase 

you expect some challenges...

and you know you can take them.

However, there will be other obstacles as well.

Some that ask you go take a leap of faith.

Do you want to deal with what is deep inside,

do you have the courage to go 'through the black hole'....

not knowing there will be 'light'....

Are you prepared to take the responsibility,

time, patience that it needs...

We had to break away some old walls in the house,

and to close the ceiling.

On the outside there is not a lot of change anymore,

but inside there is a lot happening.

I was confronted with old patterns, people from the past

and realised that I can't and don't have to safe people:

they can do it themselves AND...

that I realise that I 'use it as an 'excuse' not to deal with myself….

-subconscious- 

I also realised that I am more courageous 

and powerful then I think and...

that  I should read Marianne Williamson's poem  again….

in the 'I' form...

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were/ I born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us;
It's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Whatever you want to change in your life,

if it is in your relationship, 

if you want to live a different lifestyle,

a different job, or life in a different environment:

realise that you will be confronted with your subconscious

and that this is very powerful.

Old patterns started there,

they started to  protect you, in a time when you needed protection.

Be grateful for that part AND be prepared to deal with its

determination to hold on to it.

Have patience and trust.... 

even if the road looks like it is going

into a dark whole...

trust there is light on the other side....

I am not there yet, 

I trust there is light AND

I am dealing with some parts in me that don't want to let go....yet….

That is ok.....

step by step, day by day.

In between I enjoy the progress 

of the renovation and transformation.

I trust that what ever will cross my path

I have the power to deal with,

and that it helps me 

to let go, so I can live the life

I like to live.

And I change the poem in the 'I' form...

My deepest fear is not that we I am inadequate.
My deepest fear is that we I am powerful beyond measure.
It is my light, not my darkness
That most frightens me.

I ask myself
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who am I not to be?
I am a child of God.

Me playing small
Does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won't feel insecure around me.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
I am born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within me.

It's not just in some of us;
It's in everyone.

And as I let my own light shine, 

I subconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As I am liberated from my own fear, 

My presence automatically liberates others.

Transformation and renovation part 2

At the start of June a reminder:
renovation and/or transformation starst with YOU.
With you, to make a decision.

You should be singing this song,
looking in the mirror…
sing it to yourself….

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-2RHvGSvYQ

'I wanna love you, and treat you right'.....

A television host told a story
about a time in her life,
she didn't feel good.
'I complaint about my self all the time and was miserable.
Then one day my husband looked at me and said:
'What did you do with my lovely wife! Bring her back to me
and go away, don't treat her like that!'
I stopped….looked at him, shocked and then started laughing.
All of a sudden I realised I behaved as a victim,
and that wasn't me. 
I decided to stop and took action.
Everyday I started to work out 
and was grateful for every little step.
Now I am happy with myself again. 

How do you treat yourself?

Sometimes you need time and patience.
It started for her with a medical issues. 
She had to take medicine.
The side effects of this medicine,
was gaining a lot of weight
and even though she was happy to be healthy again,
her weight was blocking other parts of her life.

With renovation you have 'the same'....
You want to make it better, but it has 'side effects'....
you can decide to be a victim, or you can decide to have patience
and do every day a little bit to help the proces.
Remember: 
you don't have to do it all by yourself!
Be grateful of the people around you.

 I am so grateful for the construction crane….

You will also be confronted by your shadow: 

remember….it is only a shadow….

it is not who you are...

Yes, sometimes it is hard work and that is good as well: 

you feel you can tribute….

...even if it is only mowing the grass that is still there….

so it looks less 'messy'....

Transformation and renovation: 

remember to enjoy the proces,

Know you are not alone AND.....

make time to enjoy…

...Love yourself and treat you well...

Have an amazing June.