When our son was a teenager,
there was a program on television about teenage pregnancy.
We started to talk about it and he said:
'I could be a dad now, why not?'
I was a bit shocked and asked how he thought to do that.
He had a great explanation:
all about love, caring, being there for a child etc
I asked him:
'Do you think you can afford it?'
He thought he could.
Then we talked about
all the things a child needs
and how much money each of these things costs.
After this he started thinking and realised
it was probably not such a good idea...
'better to wait'......
He always was great with kids,
let them be themselves and 'attracted' them.
He loved to play and have fun with them,
a great quality for a dad,
however.....
that is not enough to raise a child.....
There is more to it and it has to do with Saturn:
responsibility, patience, stability.....
something that needs to grow.....
Now he is a father....
20 years later....
I see that he is responsible AND.....
still has his own way of doing thing:
using his/their rules and listen to their child.
Not always following all the rules.....
only those that are good for them,
and are not harming the community....
I am sure you have examples like this as well,
most likely from people you love.
Even though you were shocked and perhaps scared,
of what they said,
you wanted to know WHY they thought like that,
so you could understand their way of thinking.....
While writing I realise
I had these more often with our children
but not always......
Sometimes I was frustrated that we couldn't communicate to understand,
but communicated to have our own way.....to be 'right'.....
because I 'thought' and they thought we Knew 'the truth'....
If I look at the family I was born to,
I remember discussions at the table about all kind of subjects
and there were discussions
were we listen to each other without hearing each other,
we were listening to respond......
to make sure the other would know that they were wrong.....;-)
I left the family dynamics when I was 23, by going abroad,
I left and...only came back once a year.
So many things happened in the family that I didn't know,
and they didn't know my life....
When my parents visited us after 10 years,
they saw a world they didn't imagine....
They loved it and we had a great time together
and it changed us all.
I realised that our story's about our daily life,
were 'just' story's.....
when they came and visit...they felt it.....
Then we came back to Holland
and even though we visited every year,
it was different......
We were 'different' and for us, Holland was different.....
I realise that it was 'a big thing' energetically,
when we came back,
the family dynamics changed again:
was there balance and respect
or was it time for us all
to restore it.....
The Cosmos Knows......
it will make sure that
what you need/ your soul needs,
will come to you,
to help you go back to yourself,
to love and peace...
A lot happened and it appeared
there wasn't always respect....
there was still an energy of 'the truth' instead of 'a truth'...
When we left again to go abroad,
there were still 'discussions'.....
discussions with inner childs.......
There was also raising consciousness and healing,
and there was fear of healing......
Hurt inner child discussions with 'healed' inner child discussions...
Setting boundaries and....letting go....
Then my sister and husband and my brother and his family
visited us abroad and for them
it was as when my parents came visiting:
totally different then what they expected....
Being there was different than hearing about it....
This 'story' is a Saturn/Uranus story....
a part of My story of my family.
Everyone of us has a different 'story'....
it is 'a truth'.....not 'the' truth.....
We as the world/country/community have a story as well.
With Saturn/Uranus squaring,
we want/choose to change what needs to be changed
and take responsibility and be unique.
We set boundaries if needed AND keep on respecting each other,
each of us has a path to go.
If I look back at our family
I see hurt, frustration, pain, insecurity in the past
and also love, respect, and happiness.
I see healing and I see fear of healing,
of letting go.
I also saw hate....rejection...jealousy.....blaming...
This....
I choose to let go and so I had to let go of people.
This took time, was painful
and helped me to be more grounded,
and more loving toward my self.
I also see this in society......
and I realise how challenging it is for society to let go,
it took us as a family/ a small society, years.......
Can we do it in 'years' as well?
We started in 2008 and we 'should' be finished in 2024.....
we still have time....
Religious groups, LHBTI, foodbanks, nature, Corona,
Climate change are some of the dynamics that where changed
and helped us to find a new balance....
one that is good for us all...
and we are not there...yet....
I am sure we all raised our consciousness,
and are open to heal more
if needed....
Can we choose to start with our children,
with all the young people in our society?
Are we open to listen to them,
to let them dream and take them seriously
and also use our knowledge of the world,
to help them to choose which rules are important
and which are outdated....
They are not here to make us proud,
they are here to make themselves proud
by doing what they are meant to be...
Being happy, healthy and enjoying life.
How is it in your family?
Is there respect or do you need to set boundaries.....
Realise that if YOU heal your inner child and set boundaries when needed,
you help changing the energy and it will change for others as well....
Trust.....
Society will give us and them other mirrors to heal
......as often and as many as needed.
If we all do this, then we can look at society
and most likely we will be amazed.....
And if you still feel challenged by what you see
and realise you can not change it,
remember that you have a choice....
Respect yourself and Know you are Free....
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